What is a hoe? As defined by internetslang.com a hoe is a whore, slut, or a woman who will sleep with anyone. It is regularly used in rap songs as a way of describing women who they sleep with or just women in general. It is so common that I have even heard women talking to their friends and calling each other hoes, as if it was a term of endearment.
However, I was never so offended because within the past two months I have heard two African-American pastors describe women as hoes. One pastor tweeted “Ladies, if you want to be the only woman your man looks at, you need to shine it up. Don’t let those hoes he comes across outshine you”. The other pastor quoted lyrics in a Chris Brown song by telling men to watch who they listen to because “these hoes aint loyal”. I understand that some of you may read this and say what’s wrong with them saying that “it’s true…hoes are trying to get your man”! That response is exactly what’s wrong with our society when we call women hoes, and we think it’s okay. Jesus certainly never called us hoes. As a matter of fact, he regularly defended women who were ostracized by society.
Not too many years ago, African-Americans were regularly called niggers (yes, I typed it) and no one thought anything about it. That’s just what we were. Fast forward to today and now when someone uses the word, they have to say the “N-word”, unless of course, you’re a rapper or live in an environment where it is still regularly used like any other word. But I digresss….
Yes, I know there are women who sleep around with men. But I also know that it takes two. We as women have played a role in this description being applied to us. It’s a sad day when Rhianna receives a fashion icon award and shows up in a completely nude dress with only a thong underneath bearing all her rear end and her breast on full display. She was lauded as being daring and invoking Josephine Baker. I shook my head in shame.
Nevertheless, we are not what society calls us, and we aren’t even what some Pastors (in the name of keeping it real) have called us. If a woman is exhibiting those qualities, then instead of calling her a hoe, first think about some of your actions in the past, and instead of criticizing her, why don’t you give her a hand and help her out. Tell her she’s not what people say she is or who she might believe herself to be. Tell her who she is in Christ. The bible says that:
For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. – (Ephesians 2:10)
You realize, don’t you, that you are the temple of God, and God himself is present in you? – (1 Corinthians 3:16)
You know me inside and out, you know every bone in my body; You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit, how I was sculpted from nothing into something. – (Psalm 139:15)
Just as a stand was taken against people using nigger, we need to take a stand against “hoes” being used to describe women. After all, if they call a woman a hoe, they’re talking about you as well…because you’re a woman.
Will you stand with me today? I am not a hoe…and neither are you!
I love you to life!